I can’t
stand drug addicts, and this includes alcoholics, because I personally think
they are wasting the most precious gift that any of us could ever ask for,
which of course is life.
There are
so many people fighting to survive, battling some unforgiving circumstance that
is beyond their control, while these people on the other hand do everything in
their power to keep themselves in a comatose state, basically wasting what
others are fighting so hard to keep and it makes me sick.
Now of course
this doesn’t include all addicts, only those who openly and consciously choose
to get high/ inebriated
on a regular basis and do everything possible to stay that way, regardless of
who they hurt in the process.
Before I have everyone jumping all over me and crying foul, let me explain why I feel the way I do.
Believe it
or not, all addicts aren’t people who come from a dysfunctional upbringing,
people who have a tortured soul and/or who are trying to mask some sort of terrible/unbearable
pain.
There are
some who do drugs just because they enjoy the effects internally, and disregard
the effects externally to their bodies and to their loved ones, and those are
the people I’m referring to in this piece.
I grew up
with many people like this, and I witnessed firsthand just about any kind of
addict you can possibly think of, all the destruction and chaos they caused, and
the whole time never stopping long enough to inquire how their families/friends
were holding up during the whole ordeal.
From the hard
stuff like heroine and cocaine, to the prescribed stuff like painkillers and pills
that are supposed to take all your worries away and make you feel as if you were
floating on cloud nine.
And let’s
not forget about those who let the alcohol flow, regardless of the brand and/or
how it was obtained, like Niagara Falls.
Needless to
say it wasn’t a pretty picture, not by any means, and not a lifestyle I would choose
to entertain for me and my own, it was dark and dismal and actually very sad to
say the least.
We are
taught they have a disease; however it is us who have the disease.
They have
to be the ones who are ill, because there are doctors/scientists who have told
us so, "and we's two stewpid two think for
ourselves ah duh", so it has to be true.
We make
excuses for their behavior and allow them to feel as if they are the victims in
all this, like they just have a very dangerous hobby and all our cares and
concerns are only getting in the way of their good time.
I know when
it comes to loved ones it’s easier to believe that, to think they wouldn’t
purposely treat their bodies like a garbage truck and us like hindrance and/or
pawns unless there was obviously something wrong with them, a sickness if you
will.
I’ve been
there, seen it for myself, and even at times made excuses and allowances for
them as a result, so I know this to be the reality.
It wasn’t
until I grew wiser that I was able to see the forest through the trees, I was
able to see what was truly going on right in front of my eyes and all the dirty
little secrets that we as a society brush under the rug to help us feel better
about ourselves.
Now of
course some of these people eventually wake up and attempt to change their
lives for the better, to kick the habit and regain complete control of over
their bodies, and that I’m all for and will be their biggest cheerleader.
But it is
something they must do on their own, we cannot force them to do it nor will any
amount of begging and pleading make it happen if they are not truly willing
themselves.
The bottom
line is this, we must stop being enablers to these people and making excuses
for their actions, because the only way they will get better, if that is even a
possibility, is if we show them tough love and make it apparent to them that we
will not just sit back and let them interfere with our happiness and well-being.
If they so
choose to destroy themselves and waste the life they have been blessed with,
then let them do so alone, that way there won’t be any collateral damage or
innocent casualties.
This may
sound harsh, but it’s the only way, we must toughen up and stop being just
another insignificant piece in the game they are playing.
MJM
I completely understand from growing up this way myself, being there myself, and having so many I care for still there today. What a wonderful piece you've penned here...and I love the Elmo graphic...right on :)
ReplyDeleteExactly my friend, it's not easy to watch someone you love destroy themselves and the world around them just for the sake of getting high, especially when they don't care about anything else other than the high.
DeletePlease don't forget those that are giving them drugs, and those drug dealers they get them from. The laws should be way tougher and personally I think drug dealers should be hung. Make the penalty for drug dealing super harsh, such as death, and watch how many stop selling them after a few public executions knowing they will be next.
ReplyDeleteThen again, we are America, the good guys, and don't do that kind of thing. Like the old saying - cut the snake off at it's head and the body will die - should alos hold true for drug dealers.
My friend trust me I haven't:
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I'm right there with you my friend, very well said.